Kiss Romantically
1. Find a partner. Sure, your thumb and forefinger are always willing, and are becoming quite good at responding to your overtures, but that's just not going to get you anywhere. It's time for the main event! Call somebody up and make a date!2. Break the touch barrier. Work up to romantic kissing with a partner by first making physical contact of the non-labial kind. You'll be more comfortable and confident kissing someone if he or she has been receptive to other touches. To get started, try touching the person lightly on the arm or shoulder when you're talking. Don't make a big deal out of it; it should be a quick, innocent touch. If you want to break the touch barrier in a way that feels more meaningful, hold hands—or even lead into the kiss with a romantic hug.
- Please note that the touch barrier is culture-dependent. In certain cultures, breaking the touch barrier is a big taboo that can land you in serious trouble, or unexpectedly married. Be very careful.
3. Get "caught" looking at the other person's lips. Make eye contact and then move your gaze briefly down to the person's lips. Then move your eyes back up to meet theirs and smile demurely. Most people will get the hint.
4. Approach for the kiss. Depending on your starting position you may need only to turn your head, or you may need to lean in a bit. You may want to use your hands to gently urge your partner’s body or head into position (but only guide his or her movement a little, you don’t want to forcibly move any part of his or her body or hold your partner in an uncomfortable position). Position yourself comfortably and let your partner meet you. As you near your partner’s lips, maintain eye contact.
5. Don’t rush. You only get 1 first kiss! Unless you’re both so overwhelmed with desire that you have to kiss right now or the world will end, draw it out. It can be tremendously exciting and sensual to tease the kiss before it happens, keeping eye contact the whole time. Don’t prolong this too much though, or you risk going from sensual to silly. If your partner’s eyes close, that’s your cue to kiss. If their eyes roll, you’d better be rich or really good looking.
6. Close your eyes as your lips make contact. In some Western societies, kissing someone with your eyes open show dishonesty and detachment. When you get to know each other better, looking at each other when you kiss can be highly erotic, but until then, play it safe by closing your eyes.
7. Lock lips. Instead of trying to kiss your partner's mouth straight-on, aim to take the bottom or upper lip between yours. (Alternate between these and see what feels more comfortable.) Use your lips to lightly suck on your partner's lower lip and, as you pull away, apply a bit of pressure to create a gentle tug. This is much more sensual than simply pressing your lips together.
8. Use your hands. No, not there, not yet! Whatever you do, don't just let your hands hang at your sides like 2 limp fettucini noodles. Put them to good use! Place your hands lightly on your partner's shoulders or around his or her waist. (In Western culture, girls generally put their hands on a boys shoulders while he puts his hands around her waist.) Once your hands are in place, you can take the intimacy up a notch at any time by pulling your partner in closer. Another seriously sensual move is to put both around the back of your partner's head and tangle them in his or her hair, gently pulling. Put them on the sides of his or her face, using your thumb to sweep across the cheekbone, or put one hand under his or her chin and tilt it upward.
9. Use your tongue (optional—but highly desirable). Using your tongue during a kiss is, in Western culture, referred to as a French kiss. Why do the French get the credit? Who knows! To get started, lightly and briefly run your tongue over your partner's lower lip. If they seems to respond well to that, gradually move your tongue in closer. If your partner continues to be receptive, slide the tip of your tongue inside and gently move it against the tip of your partner’s tongue. Whatever you do, keep it in motion; letting it sit limply in your partner's mouth isn't appealing and will bring a quick end to the kissing. Conversely, don’t shove your tongue into your partner’s mouth; while plenty of people enjoy deep kissing, it’s something you will have to learn to take cues on as you get more comfortable with your partner.
10. Consider biting your partner gently. Using your teeth on a first kiss should probably be avoided, but you can try using them a bit in later kisses. Similar to the lip lock, lightly take your partner's lower lip between your teeth, and let them graze over it as you pull back slightly. Don't use so much pressure that it becomes a bite. Be warned that not everyone likes teeth in their kissing—if your partner doesn't seem to enjoy it, back off.
- You can practice biting your own lip, or pinch your of your lips between your thumb and index finger to get an idea for how much pressure to apply—and how much pressure you might enjoy.
- If a particular style of kissing is working really well for you during a particular makeout session, allow yourselves to linger in it. (Change for the sake of change will interrupt your flow and most likely frustrate your partner.) Just don’t make a habit of only doing it one way or your kisses will grow stale.
